Woman in chains

Are you a victim of holding onto past hurts, toxic people and situations that no longer serve you? Letting go of your baggage will lead you to a path of inner growth, transformation, and a life of freedom. For many years, I was a victim of holding onto baggage that prevented me from moving forward. I could definitely relate to the song “Bag Lady” by Erykah Badu. And trust me, I did miss many buses during that time in my life. So after taking some time to self-reflect, clean house, and lighten my load; I learned the power of letting go and the gift of goodbye.

Vietnamese women pushing large bags

When I refer to baggage, I am not talking about handbags, suitcases, duffle bags, garbage bags, etc. I am referring to your personal baggage that carries your emotional stuff. Baggage can weigh you down, keep you stuck, become toxic, and will prevent you from living a happy life. Carrying baggage will attract more negative situations and people into your life and will lead to suffering.

Types of Baggage

  • Toxic people.
  • Toxic relationships (family, friends, dating, marriage).
  • Negative emotions (Fear, worry, guilt, denial).
  • Bad attitude.
  • Excuses.
  • Perfection.
  • Addiction.
  • Jobs and other commitments that no longer serve you.
  • Excessive obligations.
  • Holding onto past hurts.
  • Need to control others.
  • Lack of self-love or self-worth.

Letting go is liberating. Letting go is a process that starts with awareness. It does not mean throwing away or forgetting. Letting go simply means leaving things as they are, detaching from the outcome, and moving forward. Letting go means releasing the baggage that no longer serves you. Releasing your baggage allows you to reclaim your power and live in your truth. Letting go is trusting that a higher power is in control and that all is well.

Woman breaking chains

5 Ways to Let Go and Move Forward

  1. Accept

Accepting what is will release you from the need to control the outcome. People will come into your life for a reason, season, or lifetime.  Hurtful experiences are growth lessons and have value in your life. Embrace life transitions and accept when people have served their purpose. Accept the things you cannot change. When a person has wronged or walked away from you, accept that they are not tied to your destiny, but was meant to make you stronger. Accept when a chapter in your life has closed and trust that a new one will open.

  1. Be Alone

Embrace the quiet moments and the value of being alone. Spending time alone allows you to self- reflect, learn and love your inner core self. Aloneness will open you up to learning your truth. Use alone time to meditate, journal, and do activities that you enjoy. Being alone to self-reflect will give you inner strength and lead to growth and transformation.

  1. Cry

Crying cleanses the soul and releases toxins from your body. Crying is a sign of strength and shows vulnerability, which is necessary for healing.  Crying will help you deal with stress, grieve your loss, and will make you feel better.

  1. Forgive

Forgiveness is an act, not an emotion. Forgiveness is about freeing yourself, not the person who wronged you. Forgiveness allows you to be free and not controlled by the person or event that hurt you. Forgiveness will lighten your load and move you toward rewarding life experiences.

  1. Trust

Know your truth and have confidence that you have the inner knowledge to make the best decisions for yourself. Listen to your inner voice and trust that it will guide you in the right direction. Step out of your comfort zone and trust that everything will work out for your greater good.

Baggage will keep you stagnated and prevent you from living a fulfilling life. Let go and set yourself free. Thank you for reading. Please share your comments below.

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